What People Are Saying About FreyaJoy
“I Am very grateful that she helped me in a short period of time to get over deep-seated issues, and allowing me to love and accept myself whatever happens.”
“FreyaJoy did an excellent job with her program. I give her 5 stars. She made me feel safe to get to the core of my issues fast. Having worked with FreyaJoy, greatly strengthened my self-worth and confidence. Feel much stronger, free, and relaxed now, by taking responsibility and stop blaming others.
FreyaJoy became a soul sister of one kind. Am very grateful that she helped me in a short period of time to get over deep-seated issues, and allowing me to love and accept myself whatever happens.”
Christine Bronson, life coach, singer
FreyaJoy is good! More words I don’t need to describe my sessions with her. Why do I think she is good? Because she is accurately in her approach and she brings you extremely quickly at the core. Every session again, you get the expertise of a woman who is not only an expert by experience, but as well extremely knowledgeable and skillful in the various methods she applies. I am very grateful for everything that Freyajoy offered and taught me. Frederica
“Her strength caused me not to want to “try” to change, but actually to put an end to my unwanted patterns and behaviour… and exactly this is what led to change”
The treatment by FreyaJoy has been a very positive experience for me. Together we looked for the source of my problems. By looking for the source, it very quickly became clear that it was not the issue which I was seeking help for in the first place which was the problem… it turned out to be the symptoms of a very different underlying issue. This makes the treatment of FreyaJoy so effective. She searches as long as it takes for the source of the problem and treats that instead of working on the symptoms. She is very clear, especially with her questioning me about my wanting to change or not… That is her strength. Her strength caused me not to want to “try” to change, but actually to put an end to my unwanted patterns and behaviour… and exactly this is what led to change.
Best regards, Paulien
“Thanks to this guidance I have more confidence… I feel more powerful and self-assured”
The guidance that I had with FreyaJoy was very clear. FreyaJoy can clarify very strongly how your thoughts can influence you in a situation. She finds faultlessly which belief is influencing your way of being and knows how to teach you to think differently. Thanks to this guidance I have more confidence and I can identify my boundaries better, and because of that I feel more powerful and self-assured. Thank you. Elma
“By the end of our consultation she had given me two solid ideas for handling my problem”
I recently had a telephone consultation with FreyaJoy Tinbergen. What I really appreciated most about our conversation was that the focus was clear. Because she had already asked me quite a bit of information beforehand, when we met she was able immediately to ask me very pointed questions. Right away it felt familiar to me. And by the end of our consultation she had given me two solid ideas for handling my problem.
“My vaginismus has disappeared “like snow in the sun”….. I finally managed to achieve full penetration, with a massive orgasm as a reward”
How are you doing? You have not heard from me again regarding another appointment and I will not be making one either, because my vaginismus has disappeared “like snow in the sun” :-). I am very grateful and I really want to let you know how I feel about it, also as a testimonial to inspire other clients/patients of yours.
I am also very grateful for the “noble fight” which you are fighting for all women, who, like me (and you), are struggling with this in complete anonymity and loneliness. If you want to use my story as a testimonial or reference or anything else, you have my permission to do so!
So much has happened since the moment when I told myself “I can’t do this anymore” and ended up finding you, a vaginismus expert. I’ve rediscovered my sexuality. I am feeling like a complete woman again, and I am completely enjoying my sexuality and my life! I can scream it from the rooftops! Wooohooo! I was just holding the paper on which I had written my five goals: sex all the way, find the key to my vagina and my confidence, among other goals. I’ve tackled them all one by one in a short period of time! Again, thanks to you! But my biggest lesson and struggle in all of this, would be to “surrender.” Without being completely being open and vulnerable, and in a complete state of surrender, I would not have achieved such quick results from the therapy.
For years I was caught up in my head, living an illusion. Thinking that if I tried this or that, I could fix my relationship with the son’s father. Pushing on, fighting on, and degrading myself more and more in the process. The result was that I completely lost my femininity, my sexuality and eventually I completely lost myself. Because of my vaginismus my self-esteem was at an all-time low. I remember very well how I cried at the theatre watching a Meryl Streep film called “It’s Complicated” during the scene when a woman whispered to her friends: “I heard about a women who hasn’t done it for so long that it grew completely closed down there.” A funny scene, but for me it was the painful truth! There have been moments when I thought I would never be able to have sex again, that I was worthless as a woman, and I felt like I had a huge weight on my shoulders.
You forbade me to have “no penetration.” After making love a few times, I finally managed to achieve full penetration, with a massive orgasm as a reward.
“It’s amazing to be horny and to just fuck, to use these words outright…I am very happy that I found you”
And now! It’s amazing to be horny and to just fuck, to use these words outright.
It is all one great fantastic exploration! It’s beautiful how life can turn out, how you are convinced at first that you are not a full-fledged woman anymore, bringing yourself down and are almost empty of all self-esteem, and the next moment you think, “Wow, I could start a career as a Tantra Master.” When I write it down like this, I really have to laugh about it, but it is really sincere! You told me how to discover the yoga of sex, and I can tell you, I am experiencing it now to the fullest and life is much better.
So, this is what I wanted to let you know. I am very happy that I found you and I completely support your approach. After all the quacks that I experienced, it was in your treatment where I really became able to handle everything.
Be well! I wish you all the best with your amazing work.
I was totally surprised after my intake with FreyaJoy. I had no expectations whatsoever and even so, I was “steered” into a corner into which I have never looked before. The intake took a turn which caused me to look in a different place to find the cause of my vaginismus. It was an enlightening conversation for me. Marina
“She gave me an explanation for my issues and proposed a course of action..I am very satisfied with FreyaJoy’s excellent advice and her practical insights”
I’m Hans, a car mechanic from De Meern. Because I knew very little love or intimacy in my youth, it is not easy for me to receive or give it. Because of a sexual experience with my uncle when I was 6 years old, which only involved stroking and such, during my puberty I had issues with my sexual desires because I did not know if they were really mine. On one hand I am attracted to women, but on the other hand there is a sexual attraction towards men. Besides this, I felt very subservient when I am in a sexual relationship. All of this was very confusing to me and because of this I contacted FreyaJoy. She gave me an explanation for my issues and proposed a course of action — especially to listen to my feelings and not to bother with what other people might be thinking. The feeling that I have now is much easier to embrace and I feel confident enough to explore where my sexual desires lie. I am very satisfied with FreyaJoy’s excellent advice and her practical insights.
Thanks and warm regards,
I was happy that I was able to discuss this with an expert. Her insight confirmed my own intuition
My skype conversation with FreyaJoy was very pleasant. I was not afraid to discuss my problems. As a result of our conversation, I have changed priorities in my therapeutic process. FreyaJoy helped me realize that now is not the right time for me to be treated by FreyaJoy for my issues with vaginism. Also, I was happy that I was able to discuss this with an expert. Her insight confirmed my own intuition.
“My vaginismus is definitely gone….you gave me back my self-esteem”
Now that it is about a year since our first initial contact, I can more easily find the words to express what you have meant to me. The most important thing that I want to say is that I can tell my vaginismus is definitely gone. While I am writing this, I have tears in my eyes. Something which I never thought was possible has finally worked.
You have been the most important key in all of this. Even now I do not know exactly the reason for why I closed myself off, but at least I know that it has something to do with my own feelings of self-esteem, security, love for each other, safety and freedom.
During our sessions you gave me back my self-esteem. It is easier to make choices now. And for another important thing, I have discovered that I have feelings and emotions. I have never dealt with them before. Even though they want to tell me so much, I’ve never listened to them before. Now I don’t just do things rationally, but I include my emotions. Completely liberated, I dare to trust myself more and more.
On a sexual level I have done a lot of catching up. I love sex and I now dare to take the initiative. My feelings of shame are disappearing more and more, and I make it very clear when I do not want to do something.
More and more I know what I “need” from another person to build up a loving and secure relationship. I dare opening up more to people who can give me love, which makes me feel appreciated, trusted and at ease. I haven’t accomplished what I want yet, and sometimes I fall back into a state in which I do not want to get hurt and shut myself off. However, happily enough, I do recognize these signs more and more.
“It was very valuable how you accurately described how what’s considered normal seems to influence people’s sex-life instead of feelings”
We would like to thank you for participating last Thursday in our program “Generatie IK: Intiem? Mij niet gezien!” From the sold-out venue full of “Generation IKers,” it is obvious that there is a need with “Generatie IK” to talk about sex and intimacy. During the program, however, I did notice that despite their interest in the program, a big part of the audience found it very difficult to engage in conversation on this subject. It’s fascinating to look into why we are interested in something, but can’t really talk about it.
The audience, and we, too, were very delighted about this intimate journey of discovery. We spoke with people who looked at their sexual taboos and limits in a completely different way after the journey. Needless to say, the journey was very successful.
We especially want to thank you for your contribution to our panel. It was very valuable how you accurately described how what’s considered normal seems to influence people’s sex-life instead of feelings. We also really liked how you discussed the taboo of talking about and showing your genitals when you are raising children.
Rubie van Crevel
“the origin of the issue was determined…The premature ejaculations are gone”
After suffering from premature ejaculation, I’ve decided to visit a doctor. After trying some medication that had no affect, I was sent to a sexologist. I ended up with FreyaJoy Tinbergen. At first I had to overcome my reluctance to go there, but I have to say that I don’t regret it at all.
After a thorough investigation, the origin of the issue was determined. I suffered from various anxieties which resulted in tension. These tensions led to premature ejaculation. Together we restrained these tensions through discussion and exercise. Gradually my tensions reduced, the issue was being handled better and better, and the orgasms got delayed more and more. However, this is not all. Even in daily life, I am more relaxed now. So, the therapy did not only work on a sexual level.
The premature ejaculations are gone.
“I find myself feeling more relaxed and I’ve gained more confidence about the future”
It’s been a while since we had our last appointment. I would like to let you know that things are going great. I have got a lot out of what you’ve told me and the books that you’ve recommended for me. Because of this, I find myself feeling more relaxed and I’ve gained more confidence about the future – something a few years ago I could not have hoped for! A burden has been lifted from my shoulders and I love the space and freedom that comes with it. I don’t think I need a new appointment now. I would just really like to thank you for your time and efforts, and for everything that I have learned! I am very grateful and happy that I found your website when I did.
And I wish you all the best
“Your work is really meaningful to a lot of women!”
FreyaJoy is very committed to the women who visit her. It is more than a job to her. I can also see this because of the emails I receive from her twice a week containing information about vaginismus. FreyaJoy, I think your work is really meaningful to a lot of women!
“The sex is more fun and back again in our relationship”
Because of our conversations with you, we’ve gained a better understanding of each other, and because of this, the sex is more fun and back again in our relationship. The relaxing atmosphere during these sessions, combined with proper questioning, helped us to discuss this loaded subject and by doing so, to regain our sex drive.
A and B (names remain private on request)
“she helps find adequate solutions”
Due to my talking with FreyaJoy, we found out that therapy is not immediately necessary. A strong point of FreyaJoy is that she addresses one’s questions immediately and she helps find adequate solutions. Her knowledge made me think about other things. Talking with her has motivated me to take my first steps elsewhere. It’s a bit weird that a conversation about such an intimate subject like sexuality was taking place on Skype.
Thank you very much for this first (free) consultation.
W and Z (names remain private at their request)
“I felt safe with FreyaJoy to talk and show my emotions”
Thanks to just one talk with FreyaJoy I know in which direction I have to think to be able to solve my problem. Therefore I have got a soft confidence and hope. Most valuable for me was that freyaJoy listened to me open and respectfully. I felt safe to talk and show my emotions. I can recommend FreyaJoy’s help especially because her respectful, open and pleasant approach.
“FreyaJoy Tinbergen really knows how to get at the thoughts behind one’s thoughts.
Before I received treatment, I was really insecure about my vaginismus. I felt like I was not being understood and everywhere I went, I had the feeling that the source of my problems was not really being solved. Now, after this treatment, I have the feeling that I can handle it myself and see a bright future again. A lot of irrational thoughts were addressed which I did not expect would be the source of my problems. The sessions were educational, fun and interesting. FreyaJoy Tinbergen really knows how to get at the thoughts behind one’s thoughts.
Really recommend it, Thank you
“It suddenly became very logical to me why I had these misconceptions”
During the treatment with FreyaJoy I’ve formed a clearer image of myself and not only in a sexual way. Much more than I realized, my body was reacting according to “rules” that I had thought up myself. FreyaJoy showed me that it’s okay to fail. After a discussion about misguided thinking, it suddenly became very logical to me why I had these misconceptions. Normally you just accept your thoughts instead of looking at them in a critical way. With FreyaJoy, I’ve started to look at my problems in a different way which caused me to be much more aware of what was happening to my body.
I would really like to thank you again, FreyaJoy!
“Applying communication techniques was fun”
“I have learned a lot with Annemarie’s sessions. Distinguishing personal emotions, and applying communication techniques was fun”.
(Nota Bene, Annemarie Tinbergen changed her name to “FreyaJoy”)
“We have dealt with the right topics and we created solutions”
During the sessions, a lot of questions were answered. The objective was clear. Looking back (and being closer to my objective) I am convinced that we have dealt with the right topics and we created solutions.
“How you can bring “barren earth back to life”…I’ve already experienced the benefits it provides”
I read your book, “This Way I Overcame My Vaginismus” almost without stopping. You have a very impressive life story. Wallowing in self-centeredness or self-pity can be a pitfall when describing your personal background. But nothing could be further from the truth. On the contrary, after exposing the “cesspool,” as I later heard you refer to it, you were clear and poignantly honest. With this subject, it’s admirable how you can bring “barren earth back to life.” As a proper farmer’s daughter, this really appeals to me. I’ve already experienced the benefits it provides.
Henny Jeronimus-Boschloo, Almen
“I am extremely grateful for everything that you’ve done for me”
I am extremely grateful for everything that you’ve done for me. I know it is your job, but I felt great and comfortable with your therapy. You have given me plenty of tools to keep me going on.
If I ever find myself at a dead end, I know that I can always fall back on you. The fears that I had, are smaller now because of the new insights you gave me.
“I could really open myself up emotionally and physically”
What mostly the therapy has done for me is, by simply being able to talk about what I was ashamed of and what I felt alone in, I could really open myself up emotionally and physically. By immediately sharing with a new partner that I am suffering from vaginismus and also by telling this to my friends, I actually got rid of the pressure that I’ve been putting on myself to perform better. For me, sharing one of the most intimate subjects with a complete stranger (a therapist) made my shyness mostly disappear and this motivated me even more to simply take care of my problem.”
“I think that a lot of people with sexual problems -that they can’t understand- will be able to find an opening to a great relationship on any level”
It is hard to believe.
Forty years of being happily married with my sweetest and best friend. And still, as time goes by, running into problems of a sexual nature that appear impossible to solve.
As luck would have it, after visiting your website, with great scepticism and hesitation, I bought your books. And taking it seriously at set times of the week, I worked through the workbook “Self-Assessment”, Part 2 of “How I overcame my vaginismus.” Happily most of it was not relevant to my situation.
But, step by step, week by week, it became clearer how problems appear even if you’re married with your best friend, and even when you’ve had a very happy childhood. We needed help solving the problems. It is very remarkable that this book can provide you with so much insight that you can find your way towards a solution. I think that a lot of people with sexual problems that they can’t understand will be able to find an opening to a great relationship on any level.
FreyaJoy, thank you.
Henny Jeronimus-Boschloo, Almen
“FreyaJoy puts her finger on the painful spot, … to get to the real solution”
The therapy at FreyaJoy is very real and personal. We looked beyond the superficiality of earlier therapy in which I got bogged down. FreyaJoy puts her finger on the painful spot, even though it may hurt. In my opinion this is the only way to get to the real solution. The solution that is already hidden inside you and which you reveal together. For me it was the insight that as long as I do not trust myself, my problems with sex will continue. The libido problem that I had turned out to be a relationship problem. That is the ugly truth from which we will keep on working towards a solution.Tine
“Utmost respectful…love for your fellow human beings”
Maybe it’s a bit strange for someone over 65 to read your book “How To Kiss,” but I really enjoyed it. So many things I recognize, which makes it fun in itself. And also written with a bit of humour as well. But what really touched me most is your utmost respectful way of approaching things. The book is professional, clear, while always honest. The entire book exudes love for your fellow human beings.
It’s great! I am waiting for when my little granddaughters will be ready for it.
Greetings, Henny Jeronimus from Almen
You’ve got a bag full of therapeutic possibilities and you grab just what you need. You provide personalized help
“I’ve had an intake, a thorough assessment and, after three sessions, I found it great to make love again”
The fact alone that I made the decision to talk about it, is already half the work. That is how I emerged out of my isolation.
2) I let go of the feeling that there was something wrong with me. The feeling of not being a whole person is what FreyaJoy removed.
My focusing on an erection problem was rerouted away from the organ towards listening better to my feelings. My erection difficulties were affected by my feelings that I was not yet ready for it and I can manage the situation in such a way that it feels good to make love.
I feel that the therapy was liberating for me. You’ve made me think; it keeps on working. I’ve been thinking differently: “I might get an erection, but it’s not necessary.” I’ve had an intake, a thorough assessment and, after three sessions, I found it great to make love again. I look forward to it instead of not looking forward to it. Because of this, my erections came back and it was easier to orgasm. I did not worry about having a good erection or not. The thorough examination really helped me a lot. It gave me a feeling of great relief because the cause of my erection problems also became clear.
I felt small, barely visible when I first entered your therapy. I felt that I wanted to be more than just a child asking for approval, the affection of another. You took me by the hand and showed me the adult that I am. I now feel like I can take on the entire world. I am not afraid to check what emotional baggage I’m carrying. It is great when someone actually sees me now. Especially when I love that person. But especially I can see myself now, and I have the courage to be myself. Also when I’m making love. I am open for the warmth and pleasure that sex brings. I can finally enjoy it again. Thank you.
“FreyaJoy can feel with me and can be with the emotional side of things.”
“While working with FreyaJoy I gained more insights in myself and in my family system. FreyaJoy can feel with me and can be with the emotional side of things. She is present at the moments it matters most. She helped gaining clarity about those emotions.”
Wijnie de Waal
“FreyaJoy listens well and offers new insights at the same time.”
Hi FreyaJoy, I really liked our conversation and would like to thank you again for it. Here’s my testimonial:
In my first conversation with FreyaJoy I immediately felt familiar. FreyaJoy listens well and offers new insights at the same time. I was amazed how much in one conversation could come to the surface, and that helped me to map out my symptoms. I have already been to various therapists, all of whom only took a part of my question. With FreyaJoy I have the feeling that she has more overview and thinks along from different sides. The fact that she first sends me to another therapist, for what is not her expertise, gives me the confidence that I want to come back to her later.